An EDA Member Works the Steps (Big Book 509-510)

Finally, after three more failed attempts at Steps Four and Five, the person hearing my 5th Step grabbed my shoulders and practically yelled at me, “Stop playing the victim!” Why had I not heard that before? Others, earlier, had surely said something like this to me, but somehow I did not fully understand what they were talking about. I certainly never thought of myself as a victim! But on closer inspection, I could see I was dramatically affected by what other people said and did. I did, in fact, feel victimized.